Before I had Leia I read books about baby sleep and baby schedules, and when Leia came she kind of fell into a routine and I thought we were doing great! Now five months later I find myself in chaos. I don’t even know how to describe it, her behavior and problems seem to change every week.
Around three months, after having consistent routines and great sleep habits, she seemed to hit her three month growth spurt and things have never been the same since. Sometimes she just gets up to eat every two or three hours, but recently she wakes up when she can’t possibly be sleepy too, and it is nearly impossible to get her to go to sleep! We had about two weeks where she was falling asleep with a lot less drama so I thought things were turning a corner and then three nights ago it just suddenly got worse than before! Tonight it took about three hours for her to reach a sound sleep, she just kept waking up every 20 minutes or so and fussing.
I will be honest I don’t mind getting up and nursing in the middle of the night that much, especially with the nursing issues we have had, I feel glad to have enough milk then and if she needs to eat I am OK with that. I just can’t take the turmoil it takes of getting her to sleep, or the waking up for no apparent reason and crying at night.
What have I tried? I feel like everything. I guess mainly the baby whisperer approach. There seems to be no way around crying, sometimes she cries even when I am holding her and rocking her, so I check on her every 7 minutes or so and reassure her, but she is like the terminator right now! She will just fuss and fuss even though I can see she is exhausted. I have even tried more of a cry it out approach but it just doesn’t seem to work and I just can’t let her cry indefinitely. I am always making sure she doesn’t need a burp, I give her “Little tummies” and usually it really seems it is more of an I don’t want to sleep in my bed thing rather than a I am hurting thing, though I really think teething is exacerbating everything right now. She used to have no trouble going to sleep in her crib, and I put her in before she was asleep and she had no trouble. I didn’t nurse her to sleep, I was following the baby whisperer/babywise approach and it was working, what happened?? That is the rub for me, it was all going so well it is so hard not to feel somehow I did something to ruin it.
It is so tough, it seems anything I try I feel bad about and second guess myself. Tonight I just kept holding her and putting her back to bed, after about 4 times it finally stuck. At one point I broke down and just brought her out of her room and sat on the couch with her and let her pass out. Maybe not my best moment, but David is out of town!
Naptime is another roller coaster, some days it works, some days it doesn’t, and somedays I just give up trying. I just wish I could understand! I also wish I felt there was some consistency. Everytime I think things are getting better they change again.
At least I get to hold her a lot. I wish she could happily drift off to sleep and get good rest, but if is teeth ( I think I can see a tooth trying to push its way out) or gas or who knows what and she just needs to be held in order to go to sleep at this point I am just ready to say so be it and at least treasure the extra snuggles.